Now I don’t know about you, but I love complaining. It seems like I’ve always got something that isn’t going right, and when I do have something that isn’t going right, I want the whole world to know about it and hopefully help me. Then, last week, I read a quote from Stephen Hawking – who all of us in science and technology know so incredibly well, as this complete and utter genius who also can’t speak, is crippled, is in a wheelchair, and is paralyzed. Well, he said, “When you complain, nobody wants to help you.”
How To Stop Complaining And Ask For Help Instead!
Complaining Is A Destructive Emotion
Have you found this to be true? Not even in your own moments of complaining, but when hearing others complain as well? Complaining has two effects.
- Demoralizes you to a state of inaction
- Demoralizes others to assist you
If anybody has a right to complain, and all the time, it’s Stephen Hawking. I mean life has dealt him a pretty crappy hand. But then I got to thinking about it, I was reading more of his thoughts, and basically what he’s saying is that complaining is a destructive emotion. When you walk around transmitting destructive emotions, it attracts more destructive emotions from other people, and you get exactly the opposite of what you hope you’re going to get.
How To Ask For Help
Now that doesn’t mean there aren’t sometimes where complaining will work for you, but if you look at it over time it is not an effective strategy to get what you want. What you need to do is be able to go up to someone and ASK FOR HELP! Articulate your fears and your dreams and your frustrations and what’s working and what isn’t working and ask for help, but do it in such a way that it doesn’t come across as you just complaining, but positive construction, not destruction.
So, when you think about doing that next, keep in mind what Dr. Stephen Hawking had to say on the subject. I really think he’s right.
Stop complaining and learn how to build a future with others. Come together with people who aim to create an outlet to empower others. You don’t have to take anyone down. Instead, come together to compromise.
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